Burnout isn’t something that only happens to CEO’s, running multi-national companies. Nor does it only happen to business owners and single, working parents trying to hold it all together on a shoestring. Burnout can and does, happen to everyone. Artists, creative’s, introverts, extroverts, business owners, hippies………it can happen to anyone when they don’t set and respect their own boundaries. It happens when we stop listening to that little voice inside of us that says “no”.

Burnout Syndrome

In the last month, I have taken on too much. I’ve said yes readily, wanting to help people. Wanting to be the good guy who makes everyone’s lives easier.

But I’ve said yes at my own expense. I’ve said yes when the little voice inside of me has been screaming “no”.

I’m an introvert. I suffer from social anxiety and thrive when I have lots of alone time. I’m an empath and find it difficult being around people without prolonged periods of time by myself. I know all this, and yet despite that knowledge I’ve tried to be everything to everyone and as a result I ended up stressed, anxious, exhausted, on the verge of tears and suffering from the female form of man flu (if I’m not mistaken).

That little two letter word seems so scary to me. “No”. It’s not a hard word to remember and even less of a difficult word to say, but for me saying that word risks displeasing others, evoking a negative response, making people angry or upset and that, to me is a very scary thing. You see I’ve always been a people pleaser. I’d say yes to anything if it meant someone would look at me in a favourable light and it almost always leads to resentment on my part.

This recent bout of burnout has been particularly taxing and it’s taught me that in order to be there for everyone else, I also need to be looking out for myself.

So I ask you to stop what you’re doing right now, however urgent it may seem and ask yourself “What can I do right now to look after me?”

Love and Light – Rayven. xx




Where do I start?

I’ve had this blog set up for well over a week and so far have started and deleted no less than ten blog posts. Without any idea of where to start or how to unravel the mess of thoughts in my head it’s been a bit of a non starter. Plagued by doubts and internal cries of “Who will read this?” and “Why am I even bothering?”, I’ve sat frozen in fear. Fingers poised over the keyboard, cup of tea slowly morphing from scorching hot to tepid warm as I stare blankly at the glowing screen, unable to jolt myself away from my self induced, trance like state.

I’m a member of Sarah Clark’s group ‘Copywriting for Clever Girls‘, and have watched in awe as other members share their own blog posts and websites while wondering “Why can’t that be me?”. I close my laptop and toddle off to put the kettle on, kicking myself for not being courageous enough to put myself out there, for not being brave enough to put my thoughts out there for all to see. Worried that no one will read, or worse still that people will read, judge and have bad opinions of what I’ve managed to scribble across the page.

So what’s changed?


I read this on Facebook and it made so much sense to me that I HAD to sit down and pop my blogging cherry.

So here I am. Writing because I need to, because I have to and because…….well, why the fuck not?